NaBloPoMo is exactly what I need right now! So I’m going to do it- 30 blogs in 30 days.
To start off, I have seen three recent movies without talking about any of them. They don’t flow naturally together at all, none the less, I shall discuss each of them in this blog as if they do. Hope that works for you.
I think I will start with my favorite, which was Away We Go. I laughed a lot. At one point, I laughed so hard I thought I might have an asthma attack. I cried a little too. Lots of events happen in this movie, but what I liked the best was that they addressed a lot of different women’s experiences with fertility/infertility. Some of it was just funny, like over the top touchy-feely parenting, but I felt that they balanced that well with more serious situations.
It’s been very difficult for me to articulate why, not being able to have children* myself, I don’t go out and adopt. I can’t exactly say why, but it doesn’t feel right to me yet. Maybe I’m still in mourning – but I know I’m not ready to adopt right now. In the movie, I feel like the couple from Montreal (don’t worry, I’m not ruining the movie for you here) showed exactly why I am hesitant – I am afraid I would feel how they feel. Ok, spoiler alert, I guess, because I’d like to talk about it in more detail.
I have been in her shoes – the woman who does the sexy/melancholy dance – because I have often wanted to ask pregnant women how it feels to get pregnant and have no problems – but I’m sure they couldn’t tell me anyway, and I would probably start to feel envious, which is a complete waste of time.
Anyway, I liked that part of the movie because it’s not a feeling that is talked about – the feeling that no matter how much you try to fill the hole that is left by not having children, nothing will. You have to live with the hole. And if you adopt, that’s great, and they are your children fully and completely, but the reality is that if you had wanted a biological child, an adoption is not a replacement of that lost possibility. It’s probably not fair to the adoptive child to have a parent who is still longing so deeply for a biological child, and that’s why I’m not ready to adopt yet. I am still in mourning. I don’t know how long it will take. It’s definitely better than it used to be – I no longer weep about it on a monthly basis, but the pain and loss is still there. Seeing someone portrayed in a movie who went ahead and adopted several to ‘make a family out of whatever we can,’ and seeing the possible cracks in that goes a little way toward helping me understand myself, which I appreciate in a movie.
I also liked that the main couple reminded me of myself and my husband in that they are so in love. And like that couple, we laugh a lot. And when someone’s grumpy, it’s usually me. 🙂 They have little jokes, they are disappointed by the same things, and so on. I loved them as a couple, and I love us as a couple.
The second movie that we saw recently was The Proposal. I don’t have that much to say – it was entertaining and cute, but it’s obvious that compared to Away We Go, the director didn’t seem as confident in the audience being able to grasp the events and interpret them – this is especially evident in the last scene where what’s his name says some mushy-gushy stuff, and the director cuts to shots of random office workers making doe eyes or covering their mouths in surprise. It was so effin’ silly. But other than that, the movie was fine, and was enjoyable two times, so far.
The final movie we have seen recently is Transformers II, or whatever the hell it’s called, which was pathetic. I was the one who wanted to see it – and I was sorry about 10 minutes in. The cars transforming was neat, but there was no plot to speak of. Well, there was a plot. It was a very young and oddly mismatched couple competing to be the last one to say ‘I love you’ to the other. Meanwhile, aliens attack the world, yadda yadda, the girl says it first because she thinks the boy has died, and only then he can say it back. Plus shitloads of chase scenes, and some very racially stereotyped robot characters, and a couple of near crotch shots of a couple pretty girls. I think that sums up the movie, actually. So so very bad. And they’ll make a million bucks each. Oh well. Hollywood, right?
If you only have the chance to see one of these movies, it had better be Away We Go, or you are a fool. We’ll try not to judge, but why don’t you make it easier by just seeing it. It’s worth your time. 🙂
*without going medically further than I want to, that is, Please don’t email me and tell me “there’s always something they can do” – it’s not them, it’s me. 🙂 Plaintive smile. – thanks, Sheila